So my first day back at college was interesting to say the least. At the end of last year I was feeling that I was starting to move away from the reason I started the BA course. As you are probably aware, I do have a full time job, I do have a beautiful family with two amazing boys and a stunning wife. I am very lucky in my security which I have created within my work environment. I have never been given anything, I have had no privileged background, no private school, I have made countless mistakes so many its easier to remember the dictionary.I have lost many people in my life, two best friends both dying at thirty nine, anyway thats another blog post, back to college.
I was feeling a bit negative towards the end of last year and at the start of this one that negativity had been changed to a very positive start, knowing exactly what I needed to do and how to get there. I arrived only to find the tutor was going to be an hour late, hey no problems we’re all human. We had our tutorial, quite heated but positive. I waited around to give a fellow student support for a poster presentation she was giving at 1:00pm.
When I arrived at the class where the presentation was being given, I was met by the tutor, I will not give her name. Now, she could have said, “Hello Kenny, how are you today? How was your Christmas and New Year?” she could of said “Thanks for turning up Kenny but, ‘so en so’ has asked for a small group present as she is a little nervous about her presentation, but thank you for your support” She could have said many things instead she said “Hello Kenny what are you doing here!” and went on to say” You are not needed” whilst holding a hand up in a very annoying manner. If I say now that my adrenaline went through the roof and I wanted to rip this tutors head off it will give you an idea of the kind of person I am, manners are everything to me, you do not need to be rude to anybody in life especially when they are giving up their own time to support somebody.
Within two minutes a fellow student had called me expressing her concerns and her amazement at the rudeness of the tutor. I did get an email from the tutor saying sorry if I offended you. I posted on twitter how I was feeling about this matter and somebody got back to me saying how ‘You had to kiss arse and eat shit on these courses’ Well I am not somebody who kisses arse and I certainly don’t eat shit, so I composed an email a few days later to the tutor and this is what it said:
Dear xxx,
I try and follow a few simple ideologies in my life, like sleeping on something before making any rash decisions. I love the idea of writing your anger and concerns in the sand at the waters edge and allowing the tide to wash them away. Well I feel now the tides have washed enough of my angers and concerns away and it’s now time to tell you how I am feeling. You did not offend me on Thursday you were dismissive and rude, just as you were in the lecture theatre and in the print room last year, totally dismissive of ones feelings and very rude. I understand that some personalities just don’t click and I believe that you and I have those personalities. You are the teacher and I am the student, I am there to learn and you are there to teach and that is the end of it, but I am certainly not at college for anyone, student or teacher to be rude to me for no reason whatsoever. I feel there is nothing more to say on this matter.
Regards
Kenny
Remember in life, whatever you ask of it life will willingly pay, you ask to be treated the same as everybody else, then step up and don’t except rudeness or bullying of any kind. You want to succeed in business then do the same, have self belief, have desire and step up to life – Kendo x
